One of our (human beings) greatest strengths and probably one of our biggest weakness would be our emotional dependence. A great strength because, without this element of our mental makeup we would'nt be called human beings. We would be animals. Our very existence depends upon the fact that we have an emotional support system. Be it your parents, your friends or any others . A great weakness because, being dependent makes us vulnerable, conquerable, fallable. At times, knowing that we have an emotional backup, we allow ourselves to drift away, become sensitive, lose control. I have always wondered......Can there be any person on this planet who can do without this kind of mental support system? Are there people who have lived; not only lived, but lived happily without being emotionally dependent? One can argue that, he or she is a very hard-hearted person ('pathar dil' as we call in hindi) and feels that he/she does not need anybody or does not need anyone's help at any time. But i am sure even these so- called hard hearted ones are not entirely truthful to themselves and the others. On the other extreme, there are ones who are called as 'emotional fools', who cannot do a thing until they have someone's mental backup. The latter case pisses me off.....I'd rather go with the former types..... What about you?
4 comments:
like i told u boy...
u gotta be choosy in letting ur guard down and emotionally depeding on anyone... else anyone cud hurt u...
but finally it also matters on ur basic nature... if u cant be stone hearted, u cant... if u try n go against ur basic nature, it keeps haunting u later...
for some it comes naturally... they dont really bother and it doesnt really bother them later too...
thats life... we gotta learn from our hurts and our mistakes... dont we ?
yeah...that comment completes my post....all of it....
I don't think emotional dependence or independence is a part of the basic nature... rather these are stages in life. Human beings find the strength to endure anything. If you are alone you are not dependent on anyone 'coz there is nobody to depend on. As soon as you find someone, you become dependent.
hmm... i wud disagree a bit on that @ boogerwormie
if ur alone... then the scenario is a little different... u needn't necessarily be near that person to be emotionally dependent or independent on sum1... what wud vary with distance, is the probability of the instances arising where u find urself depending or NOT depending on a certain person...
and there are sooo many people who cudnt care less if the people around them dissapeared... there are people who can be totally indifferent or emotionally independent even when they are near so many people around them...
proximity to people around you only affects the number of scenarios arising, where ur dependence is put to the test... it cannot override ur basic nature...
Post a Comment